I read the Quillette article, and do not entirely disagree with what it's saying. Our culture, as a whole, has had certain gender expectations and while female gender role-change has had support over the last few decades, the resultant changes in male gender roles hasn't had the same level of support, or even interest. I believe this has left many men feeling lost and confused, even devalued. Especially since many of the gender stereotypes from the past are still prevalent in our belief system. Men are told, from a young age, that their job is to be provider and protector; to be tough and strong. In my opinion, this harms both men and women - women because they are expected to be 'helpless' and men because they are expected to take on the more dangerous jobs in life, whether it's carpenter, garbage collector or soldier and, that while they can express anger and lust, emotions such as fear, sorrow, grief, pain are to be hidden - it makes them 'weak'. It's not that men don't feel these things, but the expression of them is discouraged.
I don't believe this issue an either/or male vs. female proposition. The same forces that create differences in income between men and women, and a double standard for sexual behavior also result in men being more prone to suicide, violence, incarceration and earlier death. In my opinion, there needs to be more latitude in gender roles for men, and more support for men in terms of their emotional health.