The problem with views like your is, you idealize "these people" as though they have no faults and are victims of the west. It`s delusional thinking. For example, real history shows that Iran had the chance to participate with the West in developing their oil resources, and they would have gotten wealthy in doing so. That was the deal set up by the British who built the oil refinery equipment, and is typical for other oil producing countries. But Iran got too greedy and this lead to their ultimate downfall.
Secondly, if we leave them alone to "figure shit out", the next thing that happens is another superpower (Russia, China) will step in and take things over, without hesitation. At least the west deals with our allies in the ME fairly, and wants to see the same principles applied to their society as in ours. Such as human rights, legal system, economic growth. To suggest leaving them alone is naive.