dialamah, there are several assumptions you make. First you say "laws against it will not stop that". You gave no evidence to support that. If abortion is illegal, it then becomes far more difficult to obtain. More importantly, it sends a message that society does not condone it and discourages it. So the number of abortions, which is currently around 100,000 per year I believe in Canada, may drop drastically. This could save tens of thousands of lives of unborn babies.
"it reduces the control men have traditionally had over women". You lost me on that one. It might be the other way around. A man could be held responsible for child maintenance if he doesn't want to marry the woman. If they are already married, there is no issue of control that I can see. Having children is a natural function of human nature. The idea that it is somehow contrary to human nature is incorrect. Perhaps feminists have somehow been led to believe it is an undesirable burden, when in fact, for many couples, it is a happy event.
When you say "men are quite happy when women abort the babies", I would say that might be true in some cases but for many it is just part of life. Men should take the assume the responsibility. It is just as much theirs as the woman's. If the woman doesn't want the baby, she should consider giving it up for adoption. There are lots of couples looking for a newborn baby. She may even feel better for doing that in the long run. Society should give women all the support they need in such situations.