WATCHING SADLY Posted June 20, 2022 Report Share Posted June 20, 2022 Before I write this I need to state that I was raised in foster care. The last and most influential home in my life was all black with the exception of me. 13 young men/boys were my brothers. They protected me in bad neighborhoods and situations (reverse racism). The parents were also black. From the first night at dinner they mentored me and improved, possibly even saved my life. I love them all and wish I could find them. In addition, as I had my own life, my wife and I fostered a young black girl as our first foster child. We have several interracial marriages in our family, all of them welcomed by all. The point I am making is that if I have any bias, it is to the good based on my appreciation of how my future was altered by several key people in my life. Having said that I need to speak the truth. The US Census Bureau published the following statistics for 2020, a couple of years ago: -The number of single parent families for Asian Americans is 9.7%. -The number of single parent families for White Americans is 18.1%. -The number of single parent families for Hispanic Americans is 28.1% -The number of single parent families for Black Americans is 50.8%!!!!!!! Why is this important? I think all of us would agree that a large part of what is bringing our country down is the huge population, the world's largest of people in jail. Profiled? Unfair? Also, the opioid epidemic is sapping the energy of our police and medical responders, aside from the huge number of deaths. Don't forget that these unfortunate people create expenses, not income as they ruin their lives. Here is the importance: -Poverty -Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor. In 2011, 12 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 44 percent of children in mother-only families. Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Children’s Living Arrangements and Characteristics: March 2011, Table C8. Washington D.C.: 2011. -Children living in female-headed families with no spouse present had a poverty rate of 47.6 percent, over 4 times the rate in married-couple families. Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services; ASEP Issue Brief: Information on Poverty and Income Statistics. September 12, 2012 Drugs and Alcohol -The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states, “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse.” Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. Survey on Child Health. Washington, DC -According to The National Institute on Drug Use 65% of the US prison Population has an active drug addiction. An additional 20% can not be verified as having an addiction, but the were on drugs when apprehended. In other words drug use is present in 85% of the prison population. -Physical and Emotional Health – A study of 1,977 children age 3 and older living with one biological parent had significantly more externalizing and internalizing behavioral problems than children living with two parents. Source: Hofferth, S. L. (2006). Residential father family type and child well-being: investment versus selection. Demography, 43, 53-78. – Children of single-parent homes are more than twice as likely to commit suicide. Source The National Depression Screening Program • Madelyn Gould, PhD, MPH, professor of child psychiatry and public health, College of Physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University; and research scientist, New York State Psychiatric Institute. -Children born to single mothers show higher levels of aggressive behavior than children born to married mothers. Source: Osborne, C., & McLanahan, S. (2007). Partnership instability and child well-being. Journal of Marriage and Family, 69, 1065-1083. -Educational Achievement – Children in grades 7-12 who have lived with at least one biological parent, youth that experienced divorce, separation, or nonunion birth reported lower grade point averages than those who have always lived with both biological parents. Source: Tillman, K. H. (2007). Family structure pathways and academic disadvantage among adolescents in stepfamilies. Journal of Marriage and Family. – Father involvement is associated with the higher likelihood of a student getting mostly A’s. This was true for fathers in biological parent families, for stepfathers, and for fathers heading single-parent families. Source: Nord, Christine Winquist, and Jerry West. Fathers’ and Mothers’ Involvement in Their Children’s Schools by Family Type and Resident Status. (NCES 2001-032). Washington, D.C.: U.S. Department of Education, National Center for Education Statistics, 2001. – 71% of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father-absent homes are more likely to be truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood. Source: Edward Kruk, Ph.D., “The Vital Importance of Paternal Presence in Children’s Lives.” May 23, 2012. -Crime – A study using data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health explored the relationship between family structure and risk of violent acts in neighborhoods. The results revealed that if the number of fathers is low in a neighborhood, then there is an increase in acts of teen violence. The statistical data showed that a 1% increase in the proportion of single-parent families in a neighborhood is associated with a 3% increase in an adolescent’s level of violence. In other words, adolescents who live in neighborhoods with lower proportions of single-parent families and who report higher levels of family integration commit less violence. Source: Knoester, C., & Hayne, D.A. (2005). “Community context, social integration into family, and youth violence.” Journal of Marriage and Family 67, 767-780. – Children age 10 to 17 that lived in single parent families were significantly more likely to experience sexual assault, child maltreatment, and other types of major violence. They are more likely to witness violence in their families. Source: Heather A. Turner, “The Effect of Lifetime Victimization on the Mental Health of Children and Adolescents,” Social Science & Medicine, Vol. 62, No. 1, (January 2006), pp. 13-27. -A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Source: Bush, Connee, Ronald L. Mullis, and Ann K. Mullis. “Differences in Empathy Between Offender and Nonoffender Youth.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 29 (August 2000): 467-478. -Sexual Activity and Teen Pregnancy -Adolescents in father-absence homes were more likely to report being sexually active compared to adolescents living with their fathers. Source: Hendricks, C.S., Cesario, S.K., Murdaugh, C., Gibbons, M.E., Servonsky, E.J., Bobadilla, R.V., Hendricks, D.L., Spencer-Morgan, B., & Tavakoli, A. (2005). – Being raised by a single mother raises the risk of teen pregnancy, marrying with less than a high school degree, and forming a marriage where both partners have less than a high school degree. Source: Teachman, Jay D. “The Childhood Living Arrangements of Children and the Characteristics of Their Marriages.” Journal of Family Issues 25 (January 2004): 86-111. None of this is written in an attempt to denigrate a specific race. It is solely intended to point out that rather than engage in assistance to those stuck in this cycle, our politicians instead repeat the same old rhetoric from the last couple of decades. The biggest assistance we can provide is to re-introduce the past American standard of nuclear family. It has become the norm, and even a fashion to go it alone. "Baby Mama" does not cut it. There should be a negative view of single parenting, or children born out of wedlock, and not because mothers are not capable of heroic motherhood. We should have a very negative view and low tolerance for those who are responsible for their single parent family. This abandonment of our values is proven to subject most of these children to the potential of what could actually be called child abuse. These children are subject to lack of opportunity, mental and physical health issues, drug addition, suicide, and prison. There is no privileged society of Whites, Hispanics, or Asians. There is an example of what works, and what does not. Until we acknowledge and act on the truth, we can not fix this problem. We need to break this cycle and reduce the number of people in jail, the number of mothers that struggle, the number of children that are abused, the number of people that are drug addicted, and the number of people that have no opportunities. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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