Bonam Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 Just ran across this article... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2223718/Chinese-man-sues-wife-ugly-court-AGREES--awarding-120-000.html In summary, the wife had plastic surgery to fix her ugliness (before they met) and never told the husband. When their daughter was born and looked ugly, the truth came out. Now, I don't know about $100k in damages, but morally, I don't think it's right to marry someone and not tell them some basic truths about yourself, such as having had major cosmetic surgery that made you look like a totally different person. The foundation of any kind of marital relationship is trust, and hiding something like that shows a fundamental lack of trust and honesty. Thoughts? Quote
Signals.Cpl Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 This has got to be a joke... He is complaining that his wife did not tell him she had surgery? It is his own damn fault for marrying for looks. When someone gets married they take their partner for who they are or should anyway rather than how they look. Should a person who used to be morbidly obese inform everyone of their history on the off chance that it is genetic in some way? Quote Hope for the Best, Prepare for the Worst
Bonam Posted November 2, 2012 Author Report Posted November 2, 2012 (edited) It is his own damn fault for marrying for looks. When someone gets married they take their partner for who they are or should anyway rather than how they look. How someone looks is a part of who they are, not necessarily any less important than any other aspect of one's being, whether it is one's intelligence, personality, voice, culture, education, etc. Individuals select mates based on the complete package of their attributes, both physical and non-physical. Edited November 2, 2012 by Bonam Quote
Signals.Cpl Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 How someone looks is a part of who they are, not necessarily any less important than any other aspect of one's being, whether it is one's intelligence, personality, voice, culture, education, etc. Individuals select mates based on the complete package of their attributes, both physical and non-physical. What he ended up with was a pretty wife, who cares how she got her looks? No matter if she is the most beautiful women in the world, or the ugliest women in the world, there is no guarantee that the baby will be as attractive or not attractive as the mother. He married for looks and he ended up with what he wanted seems to me he is a pretty awful human being if he is going after his wife because she gave birth to an "ugly" baby. Quote Hope for the Best, Prepare for the Worst
Moonlight Graham Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 This is the greatest court case of all-time. It's freaking hilarious. And ya, i'd be really PO'd too if I knew I married into ugly genes without knowing. Also, that is an AMAZING plastic surgery job. Quote "All generalizations are false, including this one." - Mark Twain Partisanship is a disease of the intellect.
Bonam Posted November 2, 2012 Author Report Posted November 2, 2012 (edited) What he ended up with was a pretty wife, who cares how she got her looks? It's not so much a matter of caring how she got her looks, as the principle of not hiding important information about yourself from your spouse. It's just a matter of openness and honesty in a relationship, that's all. No matter if she is the most beautiful women in the world, or the ugliest women in the world, there is no guarantee that the baby will be as attractive or not attractive as the mother. Children tend to have a strong resemblance to their parents. You are right, there is no guarantee, but there is a good probability that a child will bear a resemblance to their parents. He married for looks and he ended up with what he wanted seems to me he is a pretty awful human being if he is going after his wife because she gave birth to an "ugly" baby. He's going after his wife because, as mentioned in the story, she "deceived him and convinced him to marry her under false pretenses". Edited November 2, 2012 by Bonam Quote
Bonam Posted November 2, 2012 Author Report Posted November 2, 2012 This is the greatest court case of all-time. It's freaking hilarious. And ya, i'd be really PO'd too if I knew I married into ugly genes without knowing. Also, that is an AMAZING plastic surgery job. Agreed... Quote
BC_chick Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 Thoughts? I would've preferred to know something like that about my husband, of course, but I wouldn't consider it grounds for divorce. But that's just me. Calling his baby ugly shows what a class-act this guy is so divorcing his wife isn't all that shocking. I wonder what kind of a relationship he'll have with that poor child, if any. He sounds like he's just superficial enough to cut off the baby too. My heart goes out to her whether or not he remains in her life. I'm also left wondering why the wife didn't just get a paternity test instead. Not that it's the right thing to do but if she's that secretive about the plastic surgery why not keep the charade going? Quote It's kind of the worst thing that any humans could be doing at this time in human history. Other than that, it's fine." Bill Nye on Alberta Oil Sands
Signals.Cpl Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 It's not so much a matter of caring how she got her looks, as the principle of not hiding important information about yourself from your spouse. It's just a matter of openness and honesty in a relationship, that's all. I don't know, to me it does not seem to be such a big deal as there are plenty of other things I would see as deal breakers. Children tend to have a strong resemblance to their parents. You are right, there is no guarantee, but there is a good probability that a child will bear a resemblance to their parents. Who is to say that the father and his genes are not the ugly link? I don't know, maybe its just me that thinks this way but to me marriage should be about love, if it was about looks as it seems here than he was getting ready to leave the relationship as soon as her looks gave way. He's going after his wife because, as mentioned in the story, she "deceived him and convinced him to marry her under false pretenses". So you mean every fat guy and girl who work their asses off to get fit should disclose their history in the off chance that their partner would not want to take the chance of having a baby with fat genes? And what about him? He probably pretended to love her and he did not disclose that he loved her looks rather than loving her. Quote Hope for the Best, Prepare for the Worst
Mr.Canada Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 People are too hung up on looks nowadays. It really shouldn't matter what the person looks like on the outside but on the inside as well. I'm guilty of this as well but still. I cannot imagine how embarrassing it must have been for this mans poor wife. Not only does she have to go through life looking at the mirror but she also has been deemed not attractive by a court of law. Sad. Quote "You are scum for insinuating that isn't the case you snake." -William Ashley Canadian Immigration Reform Blog
guyser Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 Geez, I wonder if Christie Brinkley ever thought of suing Billy Joel. Their poor daughter , got dads looks. Maybe this guys kid looks like him? Quote
wyly Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 take any article from the daily mail with more than a grain of salt, a bucket of salt, the DM is among the worst of tabloids... there is no way the woman has had the amount of surgery the mail claims, well in excess of a $100k, she appears to have some eye lid work done(costs less than 10K here) and that's it the rest is cosmetics, in china surgery like that would cost a couple of $K at most .... as for ugly kids, there no way to predict how kids will look as adults, I've seen ugly babies/kids become beautiful and cute kids turn out ugly..and ugly parents have good looking kids (as adults) and the reverse as well... Quote “Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives.”- John Stuart Mill
Guest American Woman Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 He's going after his wife because, as mentioned in the story, she "deceived him and convinced him to marry her under false pretenses". How did she "convince" him to marry her? He says he married her out of love. What a jerk talking about his daughter that way. She's lucky to be rid of him, imo - unless they are two of a kind. Quote
wyly Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 (edited) if it's from the daily mail the entire article is probably bogus here's a link to what's been done with makeup alone... start the video at 4:25...an assortment of asian makeovers... my daughter tells me the asians masters of makeovers... the picture in the article likely comes from a asian reality show... Edited November 2, 2012 by wyly Quote “Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives.”- John Stuart Mill
dre Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 Damn I forgot to tell my wife about my medically necessary penis reduction. Quote I question things because I am human. And call no one my father who's no closer than a stranger
wyly Posted November 2, 2012 Report Posted November 2, 2012 Damn I forgot to tell my wife about my medically necessary penis reduction. reduction? that may not go over well...unless you've reduced to horse size... Quote “Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives.”- John Stuart Mill
betsy Posted November 3, 2012 Report Posted November 3, 2012 I guess it's really imperative to ask questions, if issues like sex-change or cosmetic surgery is a deal-breaker for you. Quote
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