How Hard is it for you to Apologize?

[Guest]

Its considered one of the hardest things to do for many.

Saying sorry is one thing -- or the passive "I'm sorry you feel that way", as well. Apologizing for what you did, is  whole other.

How hard is it for you to apologize?

[I am Groot]

I'd have no problem if I was ever wrong. But of course, I have very little experience there.

Maybe you should ask OftenWrong. 

Edited April 17, 2023 by I am Groot

[CdnFox]

Sorry, but I'm never apologizing. OH - crap, i think i blew it...

[Guest]

On 4/17/2023 at 7:46 AM, Contrarian said:

"Don't apologize too much, New Actions will prove if you are serious about it". 

Yeah, strong believer in that actions speak louder than words.

[Guest]

Apologizing to me is rather easy, as long as my ego is left intact.

If someone takes a deuce on my ego, my pride will refuse to have me apologize. I will nonetheless deescalate,  but will go to great lengths to avoid the "sorry".

[reason10]

On 4/16/2023 at 6:56 PM, Perspektiv said:

Its considered one of the hardest things to do for many.

Saying sorry is one thing -- or the passive "I'm sorry you feel that way", as well. Apologizing for what you did, is  whole other.

How hard is it for you to apologize?

In the real world (not this cyber playground where none of us exist as anything other than text), an apology instantly disarms. It pulls 80 percent of the hot air out of a person's anger.

A cop pulls you over for an infraction. You look him in the face and say "I'm sorry" and the dynamic is instantly changed.

An apology is a tool. It is powerful. It derails whatever rancor might be steaming your way at light speed.

It's simple. You don't have to say "I'm sorry you feel that way." (That basically tells a person you still disagree with him/her.) The simple I'M SORRY is magical. It almost vanquishes all rancor and instantly puts the pressure on the other side to find a way to back out of this diplomatically. 

On some sub assignments, I'll use "I'm sorry" all day long, especially around elementary school kids. It changes them, instantly.

[Michael Hardner]

If you accept that you are blessed with the love of those around you, it's easy.

[Guest]

1 hour ago, reason10 said:

An apology is a tool

It can be used to manipulate in court. Some murderers have attempted tearful apologies to avoid serious sentences.

I had a landlord make my life miserable, and didn't realize I had cameras in my flat.

So when he was served legally, he waited until the very last second, to call, and apologize for what he had caused. 

So you're right. It did soften my stance, but not enough to want to settle out of court.

[Guest]

"I'm sorry", will keep your marriage strong if its used by both but is genuine.

Means you were wrong, and being happy means more than being right.

Find a woman like this and not marry her, then you are a glutton for punishment.