Tom Cruise playing hardball with pre-nuptial

[kimmy]

Tie has just retired from professional hockey, so his level of income will be a shadow of its former self.

Belinda.ca has managed to find a way to keep her name in the headlines... but man, Tie Domi? She must be really desperate for the publicity.

-k

[JerrySeinfeld]

Let me weigh in here and I apologize if this opinion has already been stated earlier:

Whoever (usually women) spouts this BS viewpoint that asking your future spouse to sign a pre-nup shows a lack of faith in "love" is using an emotional blackmail technique to skirt reality.

1. Regardless of your (completely unobjective) assessment of "your relationship", getting married is a coin-flip. You have about 50% chance of getting divorced. A prenup addresses this reality and plans for it.

2. For those who have "complete faith" in a relationshp, a pre-nup should not be a problem. Keep in mind, the REFUSAL to sign a pre-nup is equally as revealing about that person's faith in the relationship. ie. If you believe in your heart it will work, why would you care if one was in place? Because you want to protect your position in the event that it doesn't work out: precisely the same thing the one ASKING for the prenup is doing.

[Renegade]

Let me weigh in here and I apologize if this opinion has already been stated earlier:

Whoever (usually women) spouts this BS viewpoint that asking your future spouse to sign a pre-nup shows a lack of faith in "love" is using an emotional blackmail technique to skirt reality.

1. Regardless of your (completely unobjective) assessment of "your relationship", getting married is a coin-flip. You have about 50% chance of getting divorced. A prenup addresses this reality and plans for it.

2. For those who have "complete faith" in a relationshp, a pre-nup should not be a problem. Keep in mind, the REFUSAL to sign a pre-nup is equally as revealing about that person's faith in the relationship. ie. If you believe in your heart it will work, why would you care if one was in place? Because you want to protect your position in the event that it doesn't work out: precisely the same thing the one ASKING for the prenup is doing.

Interesting perspective, but have you seem to have the view that the prenup only matters if the marriage doesn't stays intact. This is not strictly true, the existance (or lack of) a prenup affects the marriage even when it is intact. If a prenup doesn't exist, the financially disadvantaged party (frequently the man) may opt to stay in the marriage for economic reasons, where he otherwise would have left.

[JerrySeinfeld]

Interesting perspective, but have you seem to have the view that the prenup only matters if the marriage doesn't stays intact. This is not strictly true, the existance (or lack of) a prenup affects the marriage even when it is intact. If a prenup doesn't exist, the financially disadvantaged party (frequently the man) may opt to stay in the marriage for economic reasons, where he otherwise would have left.

Exactly. Which is another reason a pre-nup should be in place. This way two parties would act independant of financial considerations and solely concentrate on the (non-monetary) value of the relationship.

Should we all be making relationship decisions independant of financial considerations?

A pre-nup automatically eliminates money from the picture and allows both parties to focus upon the relatinoship on it's own merit.