I went through a war as a child (Former Yugoslavia) Neighbours got killed, some further removed relatives are gone, went through a lot, so what do I deserve?
One thing war thought me is, I am not special. My family is not special. They are just special to ME. But when you take an example, as extreme, where people are killed, tortured, raped, little children getting sniped from buildings, that tells me everything I need to know about the "fairness" of any individual life. When you experience something like that, the only way you can live life is by saying, "this world isn't about me, or my family (even though i care about them for obvious reasons), this is about humanity as a whole.
That is the simply the only way a victim becomes something more and regains some kind of meaning and purpose in their life.
So why do I bring up the criminal first? Because, the war wasn't about me, and no crime really is. I am interested, if at all possible, in finding ways to stop crime and treat criminals. Because, in the end, what I learned, was that, when the chips are down, any human is capable of doing wrong. And we need to try to see if there is a way to stop those kinds of "animal" instincts.