I would argue that most families have 2 people working so that they can have more "stuff".
Just don't put your kids at risk in order to please yourself. I don't know that you are, just hope that you don't.
Actually, that is not quite true, single fathers do have their careers suffer. I know from personal experience. My kids are grown up now, and all of the sudden I seem to be a hot commodity at work. Why?, because I don't have to take time off when the kids are sick, I don't have to go to parent/teacher conferences anymore, etc etc.
Again I disagree, it is because they want more "stuff".
No government program will accomplish that.
You are absolutely correct on this point. I would have preferred to raise my children in a "traditional" household, but those circumstances didn't happen for me. I was fortunate to find a private day-care provider for after school care that had the same principles as myself, but the bottom line is, I was always the parent.