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So St. Mary's has issued this report saying that sex is basically rape, even if the woman consents (no one talks about men consenting) unless that consent is "enthusiastic and continuous". This brings a couple of things to mind. One, what if the guy isn't that good? I mean, we've seen the porn films, of course, but what if the woman isn't so thrilled and isn't that great an actress and isn't continually shouting "YES!"? Does that mean the guy has to stop? How much time between the last "YES!" has to pass before he needs more reassurance? And frankly, from my memories, most young guys really aren't all that good, so perhaps they need some sort of lessons to get the necessary 'enthusiastic and continuous affirmation' from their partners? I'm not trying to make light of rape, by the way. But the problem with defining rape is like the problem of defining art. We all know it when we see it, but trying to write it down, well... that causes... issues when you start to get beyond the obvious (force, coercion, date rape drugs). And the law certainly doesn't help (even the real law, never mind the St. Mary's version). For example, say a woman is unhappy, lonely, and has a few drinks. While over the legal limit she goes out, seduces some very drunk guy, pulls him home, and has her way with him. Well, that's rape, under the law. Her behavior and consent don't matter because she was intoxicated. He should have refused her, even though he was drunk (his being drunk is not permitted to be used as a defense). This is one of the oddities of how we treat sexual assault in this country. Basically we treat sex as something men want and women do not. Therefore the male is always considered to be the initiator of sex on helpless women who really don't want it (unsurprisingly, a large number of female social activists are lesbians). So we must do everything we can to protect the poor, helpless, stupid woman (any woman dating men is stupid the way many of these activists see it) from being brutalized by the oversize, violent beast that is the male. And this includes protecting her from herself, because, well, obviously, she can't do it herself. So, men, better start getting your women screaming passionately and continuously, and it wouldn't be a bad idea to record it -- oh but make sure she signs a document allowing you to do that first... http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/can-she-consent-to-sex-after-drinking/article17158564/#dashboard/follows/